Thanksgiving went very well. We cooperated appropriately and everything went smooth. Friday the boys and I played backyard football with a friend and cousin and then put the christmas tree up. The boys did most of it and we had a lot of fun with it. S13 sent a picture of it to everyone in his contact list I think.
S13 has recently developed an interest in girls. This is going to be VERY interesting as he has turned to me for advice with his new GF. Anyone have experience with this? It seems like things have changed alot since I was 13.
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rpp, he was bombarding her with tm. It got to the point she said " I have something to do". I told him to back off a little and let her respond at her own pace. I told him to suggest a phone call and her response was " I dont like to talk on the phone much" Is this common? Is the TM bombarding bothering her or is she enjoying the attention? Do kids these days (wow that makes me sound old) not talk on the phone?
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I set up some rules for him. No communication after 9 and hes not allowed to take his phone to bed with him. I do random phone checks too. I look at phone call records and read a tm or 2, just so he knows I can and will keep an eye on things.
Am I being overbearing and controlling, or am I just protecting my son and showing him how to communicate responsibly?
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Do kids these days (wow that makes me sound old) not talk on the phone?
They only talk on the phone if it turns serious. Otherwise, they text. When my S started "dating" in middle school, I told him that he was NEVER allowed to break up with a girl by text.
He does need to back off on the texts, though. For sure let the poor girl reply at her own pace, but I've also heard of parents being ticked off because a friend (or potential gf or bf) sent too many texts and ate up their phone plan. So, something else to be aware of.
I set up some rules for him. No communication after 9 and hes not allowed to take his phone to bed with him. I do random phone checks too. I look at phone call records and read a tm or 2, just so he knows I can and will keep an eye on things.
Am I being overbearing and controlling, or am I just protecting my son and showing him how to communicate responsibly?
All good. Kids need parameters to protect them from themselves and from other kids.
The 9 pm rule applies to me too. I dont shut my phone off at 9 but I would sure like to. Ok so I am on the right track.
Yes, you are A 9pm shut-off of all screens is good not only socially, but because the blue light interferes with sleep. I make D12 charge her phone across the room so she can't see it if she wakes up at night. Plus it's not tempting that way.
Well, it finally happened: S10 left his basketball shoes at WAW house. She sent me a TM and told me she set them on the porch in a box. On my way back from the grocery I stopped to pick them up. No cars in the drive, no one appeared to be home. As I was backing out of the drive OM appeared out of nowhere in my passenger side window. I locked my doors and took my foot off the brake and rolled out of the drive trying to avoid a confrontation. He was yelling and had his hands raised up in the air to his sides in a threatening manner. As I backed out he stepped towards the truck and I hit him with my extended mirror. It simply folded the mirror forward, didnt break it off. 20 minutes later he sends me a tm (dont know how he got my #)telling me of all the bruises he has and that I knocked him down with my truck and that 2 neighbors witnessed it. It is amazing how life can change so quickly. 4 months ago I was married and living a normal family life.
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A 9pm shut-off of all screens is good not only socially, but because the blue light interferes with sleep. I make D12 charge her phone across the room so she can't see it if she wakes up at night. Plus it's not tempting that way.