Sometimes I don't know about the friend thing either. Laurie said it is hard for men to get that women want to feel like you're their best friend first before any romantic interests redevelop, like they will trust you as friends first, then when they feel comfortable, let down the guard a little more. Nothing verbalized, OF COURSE, lest they actually admit they are reconsidering.
So messed up, and takes so long. Maybe thats why she feels it would be so much effort, she sees that far ahead when thinking about reconsidering or reconciliation. At least she has thought about it I guess.
Good point about OM and they don't have the stress and tension that they have to face with us. That is MY JOB to not have that stress and tension so they feel comfortable being around us and don't feel any pressure. Then there is no reason not to be around us more and more and more and more. NOTHING VERBALIZED, OF COURSE.
