Quote: I think going through the process together would actually build our closeness and if I am her best friend during this, wouldn't it make it that much harder for her to leave me? So confusing.
It's kind of funny you say this coz I wonder the same thing sort of. I guess that's not something that Michelle really covers but maybe it's one of those 11th hour saves that happens?
I guess my thoughts on this are that if you keep working on the D together and get all of the paperwork, etc. done and you're doing it in a DB manner, I would think that it would be crippling in the end to see them go through w/it. Almost like a second kick in the pants coz you just don't know what's going through their heads!
I have thought about this as well Seattle but I don't have an answer. I guess my thought on it is being kind through the process and not vindictive but I can't understand the friendship concept during it. Maybe I don't want to understand it either coz I'm not there but it just hasn't hit me.
You can't question them about their time either. She makes time for the OM coz she doesn't have to "pretend" as much? Not pretend in a bad way but it's that novelty thing. With you she expects your reactions and if she hurts you, it hurts her. With OM, she may not know him well enough to see she is hurting him or care about it.
It seems like it's about windows and doors...she has closed most of them on you and is not ready to open them yet. It's a tough pill to swallow but it feels like my sitch a year ago. I felt like I was talking to a wall for a long time. If I was lucky I got an uh-huh or some other one line answer. Now I feel like we're friends and we can talk easier. He still doesn't call me unless it's child related but I feel like the ice is melting.
Hang in there Seattle. One step at a time. Keep the small talk going and see how she reacts to it. Let her think you're being insincere but show her something different. Good luck. Tootles.........
