Ugh. My first impression is that you have a really smart 7 yr old. Second is almost pity for WAH. "What's bringing this up?" Does that really need to be answered? I can see how you're stuck between a rock and a hard place. On one hand, at bare minimum, D7 needs different responses from WAH (if he's not currently willing to work on the real issue). On the other, if you tell him anything along those lines or give him advice, even if it comes from a loving place and in a loving way, WAH may see that as same-old behavior from you.
Definitely make the blanket Christmas movie time happen, though. I did something similar tonight, but with Christmas music. I lit up the inside of her play tent with Christmas lights, stuffed it full of blankets and pillows, then played some classic Christmas music and read books in the tent with her. Perfect night!
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
