A woman who doesn't talk? What?????? Is she an alien?
Just kidding....
Think of her as you would any other shy person... shy people are actually my specialty in life. My closest friends were the wallflowers, and I always felt intrigued by that notion--enough to make them come out of their shells.
I'm pretty sure that you know a few topics that are near and dear to her heart (note: probably NOT WWF, beer parties or the Sonics). Ask her questions. And concentrate on listening to her answers. Nod your head, smile, affirm her.
John Gray, move over.... cause I'm plopping my big butt on your couch! (Have you read Mars/Venus? Lots of great pearls you might be able to use with her there.)
Seriously (again), if you can focus on just a few topics, it will show her that you are listening to her... and keep up with her on them.
You said her anger and blows are dissipating... to what do you attribute this observation? What are you doing or not doing... saying or not saying?
You're getting somewhere here, Seattle... stick with this. She's not as far gone as some, so there's hope.
If you have a party, I'll fly there and join you. I'm hip to attend any function where guys cook... count me in!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
