a young marriage in trouble

[mahhhty]

My mouth just gets me in more trouble and makes me feel much worse after the conversations.

My goodness so does mine. I am a gut feeling guy. So telling my brain that everything I think doesn't need to come out of my mouth was/is difficult. Here are a few things I've been thinking/trying...

I read this article on self-control where the author took cold showers to teach his mind and body not to react impulsively. It has an odd soothing effect of empowerment if you can stand tall under the cold water. Don't get hypothermia though...

Also when I get a little flustered or upset, I continually check what I see by asking myself... what do you want to say and what do you want her to hear

Lastly, there is a decent book about de-escalating conflict and attempting to be heard or be compassionate... Talk to me like someone you love.