Be prepared to be painted as the bad guy. It's how they justify their behavior. Because if you weren't so terrible, then they'd be terrible people for doing this to a decent person. Can't have that, so they demonize us.
I've definitely felt this. Her own sister apologized to me. Now I am this awful person. I get it. I don't agree but I get it.
Originally Posted By: GoatGal
But definitely own your own failings in the M and work hard to figure out what those might be. Get started on fixing them. The more you improve yourself, the less our spouses can see that person they need to leave so badly.
This is Cadet's gift of time. I am on it. Of course it is my perception of my own failings. But I am making the most of my new opportunity!
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
