[s][/s]OW responded to my message. She was very polite and understanding. We had a long talk. She was very glad I informed her of what I did. She stated more than once she felt I was a good person and she was sorry, and said if she had known how invested in BF (even though he claimed we had been nothing more than roommates for a while) I was she wouldn't have started with him.
She claims she did not leave her H for BF, that she left him in January of her own accord, and filed for D after BF left me.
The things she told me about them were shocking and ten times worse than I thought my sitch was, as far as BF's bullcrap and how long they'd been at this and what he'd told her. Apparently he moved her right in as soon as I moved out, despite his "we're screwing but not in a relationship" speech. He did a lot of lying, to both of us, it seems. She said that, while clearly he has a negative pattern of issues and she's heartbroken to be a part of it, They're "knee deep" in buying a house together and her D7 adores him, so she's going to "take it one day at a time with her eyes open" and see what occurs.
Okay. Enjoy that. You're a big girl and now you know what he's capable of.
And thus begins my attempts to heal and recuperate. I feel a million things at once right now and I'm numb, sort of. I'm assuming he won't contact me again, now that she'll be chewing him a new anus. Staying dark won't be an issue going forward. *sarcastic LOL*
Mostly I'm wondering why I still love him and why I know I'd take him back if he were ever 100% done with OW and wanted to reconcile.
C'est la vie, and la vie [censored] sometimes.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
