I more than appreciate the insights on your sitch on my thread, don't ever be shy about that, I consider it an honor that you would share your experiences with me. I really do mean that. I think that is what this BB is about, sharing experiences with each other so we can all benefit and learn.
Quote: Now, I know that here on the BB all of us have in some way or another similar traits in our sitchs, and this one is similar to us. This is exactly what she is going through. I believe she is fighting herself, not knowing what to do, but choosing right now the easy way out, to try and ignore everythiong about me and live the "new" life.
Trouble is, and this is where it may be different between us, she does not know what the impact and consequences of these choices are actually doing to her and others around her, especially her own children.
Her drive to ignore her own pain and anger does not give her the ability to see reality. and that is a shame. almost like she is trying to create an alternate world for herself.
That is exactly it, running away because it is easier for them to ignore it and cram it down than to face it now. They don't realize it only comes out more powerfully when it does come out. Thats why I think my WAW cries so much when I see her, too hard to surpress any longer.
You're right about your children. It is necessary for you to have consistent contact. That is what is difficult for me because she has been so successful at creating this "new life" without me. That is why I had to confront her and call it like it is, silly that she won't even let me see the dog, silly she won't allow herself to see me. I was surprised she agreed and says she will make it a priority.
I guess I just keep trying and testing and pulling back when needed. Do the dance, I'm a good dancer now, actually always have been. If anyone has opinions on how I can keep contact and closeness to her when she says she has so little spare time, it would be much appreciated.
Other than ask her to make it important and put in some effort, nothing really has been successful. I'll let you guys know how our next interaction goes, if she really is making it a priority as she says.
I do need to reassess and everyday is not a bad idea. I haven't been as good at this as I would like.
on another note, i think the circulation in my brain is constricted enough by all the WAW interaction, ha.
