First of all, R talk isn't bad--it's only something to avoid when you know that the results will take you further away from your goals. They must happen periodically (at least in my opinion), but you can and should work through them with the intent of understanding vs. attempting to be understood.
That being said....
I see a very successful progression between you.
One thing that pops up to me which I want to share is something we discuss in sales training. Actually, you can apply this to dog obedience or parenting.... We humans tend to say NO and NEVER and I'M NOT GOING TO CHANGE MY MIND when, in fact, we are basically feeling something very opposite. That feeling being: "My answer is NO until I have sufficient information to convince me to make this a YES."
Humor me and take the observation for awhile because it ain't over until the fat lady sings. It's a new day, and I still don't see her--do you?
The final coup? She discussed spending more time with you. Even if she is agreeing so you get to play with the dog, if she was really dead set against you, she wouldn't agree to this.
So just keep validating and understanding. We women LOVE men who can do this.... and a secret? (Please, yaya sisterhood don't beat me up for sharing this.) It's really touching when we know it takes you out of your comfort zone--it really shows a commitment to caring.
Time for a group hug....
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
