afraid I have waited too long #4

[nit84]

I emailed my W last Sat but not for the reason I mentioned ^^^.

I emailed her to ask if would agree to pay her share of bills from the last month she was living in the Marital home with me.

This is what I emailed "Good Evening, I hope you had a great Thanksgiving. I am asking if you would agree to pay your portion of bills from Sept. that came due in Oct. and Nov. Thanks H"

W responded 36 hrs later by saying email the bills and she would look into it.

Yesterday I emailed copies of the bills and now I wait I guess.

If she agrees to pay these bills that would be great it not a lot of money between 90.00 and 100.00 so most likely she will have no problem with it but who knows.

If she does respond favorably should I attempt to open up any other dialogue? For instance, "Hey there is mail here for you and/or I have put some of your things in boxes that you left behind if you wanted to come get them."

In the process of finishing cleaning a spare room I started last year. I csme across a typed list of issues my W had with me and our M. Not sure if it was planted by her for me to find when I moved back last year or was just buried under the mess that was in this room.

Either way doesn't matter. She never gave this letter to me. I read it and it wasn't shocking what it contained, mostly things that I would agree might have been problems and honestly things that I have already worked on and feel I have changed since our S 18 months ago.

This list was compiled or typed sometime between 2010 and 2012 so I know it has been and issue for my W for a long time. I just wonder why she didn't give me the list then or at least attempt to talk to me about this issues. She mentioned things in passing but we never ever sat and discussed these issues.

None of these problems are unsolveable and frankly not sure they even need to be solved. I can just let my actions show that they are taken care of and I have rectified them myself at least my part of them. My W still needs to accept her part of the failure but I feel good that without even seeing this list I set out to be a better H and in the process fixed some of these issues.

Not mind reading but I would like to think that before my W moved out she saw by my actions that I have changed things that bothered her and she knows that I did it without the benefit of seeing this list she compiled. It may not save my M but I still have hope and I couldn't have that if I hadn't put my mind to changing myself.

Thoughts appreciated about whether I should attempt a little more contact if things go ok with the bill payment request or anything concerning this list I have found.