I responded to one of your postings in another thread, but I just read your story here and can relate to it a lot. My WAW won't have any contact with me any more either. She too made plenty of mistakes, but I made enough myself that she is sufficiently and self-righteously p'ed off and blames me for ruining the marriage. It's so painful.
Please keep posting. I'm a new member too and, speaking for myself, reading your story helps me. I'm sure it will help others too.
Me: 39 W: 46 D: 7.5 S: 5 SD: 16 SS: 12 T: 2 (06/2012) M: 2 (12/2012) Separation 09/2014. No talks of D yet. No communication since 10/3/2014