Shocked by W

[TLEE86]

hjoseph, sorry your in this situation. New to these boards myself but just wanted to let you know someones listening. Pretty similar situation myself, though we survived the deployment (1 year) but apparently not Ranger School. Gone 3 months and come home and BD…kinda like you, no warning. Her mind was made up before i even got home. Sometimes…wives just..snap when their husbands are gone. When we're gone on deployment/schools, wives have quite a bit of time to think, and think themselves into a crappy place..my wifes own words. But nothing we can do to change their thoughts.

Keep your head up, follow the advice from the vets here, and like you already are noticing, giving her a little space and not pushing seems to make her come to you more. Just like time (when we were gone) gave them the opportunity to think negatively about everything that we ever did wrong, time is the only thing to make her start thinking positively, and the only way we can do that is by working on ourselves and continue to make consistent changes and hope they notice…still learning myself. best of luck.