Thanks for the input. Karen, yes it is a positive for me to show concern and attention but need to balance that with a vibe of non-pursuit, so it is a delicate balance. She just called and I suggested we could go grab a bite, she said that would be ok and she said you pick the place and I'll meet you there.
I do write down all of my thoughts before any face to face interaction with her so I am centered on what my goals are, how I want to leave her feeling, what I'm going to say, and the messages I want to convey. It is an excellent idea, I may overanalyze too much.
It is really difficult to ask for anything out of these conversations about US since she continues to express her desire for a D and is not very open to talk about much else in respect to US. Maybe I will just say I am overwhelmed and use her words and say I need some time.
I would like everyone's opinion on this - she just got back from a weekend away with OM, her first with another man other than me. Last week she was trying to avoid getting together on Tuesday, today. She always tries to avoid Tuesdays as she says, it is her only personal day and only day off. I know OM also has these days off. But she agreed to meet me tonight last week and we just reconfirmed.
I'm thinking if she has been with him all weekend, with him all day today, and then meets me for dinner, how will that impact my encounter with her?
I'm hoping to jack up my PMA before our meeting, talk about all the interests and friends I have been involved with, be a babbling brooke, and basically just a cool friend. I also need to validate a lot of the things she had said in her letter. I will be understanding and really listen.
I guess I'm confused on how the impact of her doing all of these things with OM right before seeing me will impact her thoughts about us. If I leave her with a good impression, I guess that is the main objective. Make her feel like she is crazy for leaving me. Any thoughts?
