In my sitch, there was no violence or RO. It is normal for the WAS to put up their own Berlin Wall to ensure there's distance between the LBS and them.
Bond's wife did not speak to him for 3 years and they're now happily reconciled.
Yes, it takes a looong time for the WAS's Berlin Wall to come down. It is because they are very hurt and in deep pain. If there is a OW/OM, then their minds are foggy from the A where they must pledge their "loyalty" pin to them instead of their own spouses. Wacky. I know, I know.
I am glad to hear that you and the boys do communicate. Keep it up.
Originally Posted By: vertex
Another reason why I think she's angry, besides the fact that she's been ignoring me, is that even though she told her MIL that she wants me to see my boys more, she is only letting me see them every other weekend and every other Wednesday overnight.
You don't know. That's mindreading. You cannot read what goes on in W's mind/head. Just let her be.
Originally Posted By: vertex
My L and I had asked for every Wednesday overnight and every other weekend, not as a final plan, but as a baby step, and it seemed completely reasonable to me. It's just weird how she tells her MIL that she wants me to see the boys more and then keeps me from seeing them much at all (I haven't seen them for a week now). And it's frustrating to me because right now my W and I have the same legal rights to the boys. I'm letting her call the shots for now because I want her to have her time and space and to see that I'm not controlling the way I used to be. Also, my L, who knows I want reconciliation and who is a trained mediator, has suggested these baby steps instead of simply going tit-for-tat with my W.
I really like your L. He does have your best interests in his mind. Give W some time for her to come around and she will in due course. As we all know, this cannot go on indefinitely. First things first. You know what you need to do about that RO.
