I will talk to my lawyer, hopefully today, about dropping my side of the mutual RO. You don't think that would push my W away or be seen as pursuing?
No, it is not pursuing. What you are doing is removing a barrier to communications between you and W. This is YOUR part of the solution. What W does or doesn't do on her end is her business.
It is encouraging to see that you're proactively seeking help with your anger issues and sexual addiction problems. This is a Herculean task in front of you and you would want to tackle them at your own pace. There's no competition here. It will take some time to work through the root causes of these issues.
I hope you brought the books I recommended a few posts back. Have you?
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Do you think a letter would push my W away if I asked my MIL to ask my W if she would accept a letter before I give one?
Absolutely yes. It will just make matters worse. There's no "timeline" or "deadline" for this to happen. You would want this process to occur organically. No forcing it. For now, focus on getting your RO against W removed. Then you can cross this off from your to-do list.
Baby steps.
Just to let you know. Ms. Wonka would NOT talk to me for 4 solid months. I've endured a bunch of crap from her in the initial stages of her moving out of the house. Tough chit. No two ways about it.
