Jim0987 #6 - starting a bit of a rebuild

[jim0987]

Need some advice because frankly this has just confused me

first the background

So on monday W asked me to send her the seperation agreement i drafted. which i did and this was the email exchange.

M: Attached is the most up to date draft of the seperation agreement for you to look through, let me know if you have any comments or amendments you would like to make.
W: Thanks. My solicitors haven't had a response from yours. Can you chase them please?
M: Which ones are they trying to get hold of? I'm using different solicitors for the divorce and the move. I assume house move.
W: Yes, the move. I think you've only given me one set of details. Can you confirm both please?
M: for the house move I'm using XXXXXXXXX, for the divorce i'm using XXXXXX.
Can I have the details for your solicitors please
Thanks

On monday evening we had the conversation where she seemed concerned i'd filed for divorce and that drifted into a R conversation which i posted about on tuesday. (still havent got her solicitors details)

anyway today i get this email

W: When you say divorce what do you mean exactly?


I'm just a bit flumoxed by this. i thought divorce was pretty self explanitory and shes been pretty unequivocal that she doesnt want anything to do with me apart from co-parenting (and thats only because she has to).

My best guess is that she is worried i've filed because if i have i will have to have cited either her unreasonable behaviour or her adultery. I know from previous intel that she has an unreasonable behaviour claim completed and ready to go the day after she moves out and so if i file first that will really disrupt and upset her plans. In the UK there is no point contesting so whoever files first wins in terms of the legal record.

This ^^^^^ is mind reading at its finest.

Anyway i'm trying to figure out how best to respond to this without sounding patronising or doing too much to make her feel better.

The best I've got is

'I've instructed a solicitor to protect my interests and rights towards the kids through the divorce proceedings as and when they take place'

suggestions welcome. Thanks