but d17 is a tuff one. Unfortunately, she is so much like me - bookish, loves books and movies, and a strong faith.
In my sitch I've found that my middle one is Mom's "protector", and others have told me they have noticed that they have one child take on that role. Maybe she is doing that, since it sounds like it's pretty chaotic over at W's place?
Regardless, since she is so much like you, I bet you know pretty well what she needs.
What did you need when you were 17 from a parent? Especially the one you weren't as close to?
Can you plan any activities to touch on her interests, validate them in some way? Show you do "get" her some?
I bet you can...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm