We went to MC together several weeks after the bomb (I was already in IC immed. following the bomb). W stonewalled the whole time. It was absolutely brutal for me, I walked out of each session feeling like I'd been beaten with a sack of oranges.
Our MC actually came up as a topic when we were talking last night. She wanted to know what I thought of our MC. I told her that I wasn't thrilled with him, thought he made us and let us talk too much about the past and the problems, and didn't get the feeling that he was really SB. Wife asked what SBT was, so I explained a little. I also told her that I didn't think he was a bad therapist, but that he probably never had a chance. W was curious what I meant, she asked whether this referred to her having already made up her mind. I smirked and raised an eyebrow but didn't answer and she just nodded in response. Hmmmm.
I think C can be great, my IC is superb, but I think successful MC depends on a great MC AND a willingness on both partners parts. That's my 2 cents.
