Hello Seattle...thought I'd drop over and see your new thread. Thanks for visiting me and sending encouraging words.

If you recall my sitch w/C, mine was post S and didn't go so well for me. I definintely did not do ENOUGH homework on C and found that they are not solution based and didn't appear to offer anything to our sitch. Just seemed like a mediator; someone to thrown a bone to us every once in a while. If my H gives me the chance to go to another one I am going to do some more investigative work before we go and find out about one that follows Michelle's theories.

Have you ever tried to talk about how you've changed recently and how hard you are working? Or the fact that you know you were wrong in certain areas and see how that must have made her feel? I have been eating a bit of humble pie in the past few months even though I didn't always agree w/H, but it seemed to go over better than disagreeing or fighting back. I guess I was just trying to turn the tables and let H know that I was aware of the issues mentioned but didn't see it that way at first. All that stuff about REALLY TALKING and LISTENING. I wasn't doing it (not that H does either but that's another issue ). I told H that I finally GOT it and heard him. I made mistakes and see that now and if given the chance H would see a difference.

Just some thoughts for you. Not that they're working great for me but they leave H thought provoked. At least he's not running away and I see the baby steps. Maybe this will help just another opinion. Take care. Tootles..........

Karen