Mindsin - Part 7 (Dark times)

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She wants to take the kids on vacation over a 4 day stretch at the end of the year. Originally, I had stated practicality reasons why taking two young children with her would not allow her to relax (which was her main goal). I also hinted to her that one of the reasons I didn't like the idea was that I did not want to spend New Year's by myself (and away from my family). That was likely a mistake.

In the end, I agreed with my W, in her request to take the kids on a mini vacation at the end of the month by herself. She was excited.

On another topic -- I left the door open to have further conversations on our current living situation, and how we can make improvements to reduce stress and anxiety around each other. She has not approached me with this conversation yet.

Also, yesterday we had a conversation over text regarding being open and honest with each other. I told her that one of the things that need to happen is that we need to be accountable for each other's whereabouts. She said she wanted to go away this weekend, but didn't tell me where or with whom. She responded by saying that I haven't been open with her in the past when I was out those nights (ballroom dance classes). I told her that things are different now. With the affair behind us, I feel like I can trust her again, and I want nothing but honesty between us. The conversation was interrupted and I said that perhaps we could pick it up later tonight when we're home. That didn't happen.