As for your ?'s about counseling: We started going about 3 months post bomb/separation. He was going to IC also. We kept going through the separation. It took all three of us (MC, IC & me) telling him alot of the same things over and over before he started questioning some of his assumptions--especially the ones he had about me that were way wrong.
I'm glad you are starting to see some thawing going on.
