The Goddess of the Goats Sees Into The Future

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GG - About this, from the other day:
Laboratory Notes:

1. It has been determined that there is a correlation between my pulling back and H pulling back--more. After his decision to not have Thanksgiving with me (I'd invited him), I pulled back and just went to minimal, friendly contact. Immediately he stopped with the "Goodnight" texts and calls for no reason. He stopped with the friendly texts and now it's back to "all business."

I'm not sure what to think/do about this. But it just can't always be me that sticks my neck out. I have no doubt that he knows I was a bit hurt that he blew me off. He even said he "wasn't trying to be a jerk". But even though he hurt my feelings a little and I pulled in to protect myself, is it possible that HE feels rejected when I do that? How can that be? When I go dim/dark, he goes even darker. Like he's respecting my wishes or something. In any case, he DOES NOT REACH OUT TO ME when I pull back. AT ALL. Some days I feel like I don't understand anything.

...My H does the EXACT same thing. I've been trying and trying to put myself in his shoes, and try to see my actions/words as he would. But, I just can't. I just don't have any idea what he's thinking these days, because he does not talk -- like yours. And this has been the pattern for our whole M, also. GG, I think you're doing great, and you'll be fine no matter what. I think I will be too. And with me, nowadays, the biggest reason I think I don't want to D is because I will have to move out of the new house that we built together, with LOTS of blood, sweat, and tears, so that some other chick can move in and live in it someday. It's hard to walk away from a M, but also hard to walk away from the life you built around you.

You have alot to think about GG, but it sounds like you have a plan. Maybe it's time to start kicking it into action. I've just jump-started mine. I'm hoping for the best for you, whatever that may be!