Dave, Here is the worst part about my pregnancies: I have always FELT pretty when pregnant. Now I do not look pretty, that's evident later on when I look back at pictures and stuff. But during the time, I always felt sexy and alive and very attractive! So it was doubly hard to take when H's desire went from low to non-existant. Both times we had no sexual contact from a certain month on..can't remember which one now, but it was at the point where I started to 'show'. I used to think that the change in my physique turned him off but now I think that the big belly reminds him that there is a BABY in there and that starts to freak him out.
He is really concerned that the baby "hears" what is going on, or can feel it somehow. Now, this is an intelligent man who but this is not a rational thing with him, I suspect.
The heartbeat thing is wild! You know, he never wanted to get that close to my belly while I was pregnant. He would touch it, very lightly and not for very long. Looking back, I think he was so horny from the abstinence of 6 months that he was afraid to get anywhere NEAR my lower belly.
But this time, he's going to do this! It sounds fantastic. Thank you very very much for this suggestion. This time around, he is very different in his approach and I remain (cautiously) optimistic that it will continue, even after I get big and fat.
