A new M--a new me, a new him!

[reachingHigher]

Thanks to everybody and their kind replies here

job, our older son did hike down into the Grand Canyon with relatives and stayed overnight. My H and other son and I toured the area and enjoyed that immensely as well. We have really great memories and pics from the trip.

Life continues to get better with H. We have bought a new house on 1 acre and are closer to the metro area (instead of the rural 20 acres we had) with a guest house behind the house. We are turning the guest house into a rec room/workout room and man cave. This move to a new house is a brand new start for all four of us. We loved the old homestead but it had bitter as well as sweet memories for us all.

We have already had some friends over to our new place and used the rec room (we bought a pool table from the sellers) and I can't describe how much fun it was having company over with our two boys and us playing music, playing pool, darts, etc. and laughing and enjoying ourselves!

I have learned that H and I can disagree without being disagreeable. We are FAR more accepting of each other's quirks than we were pre-MLC.

I wanted to share that my H sent me an email earlier today that was interesting. He said he came across a goals list he had made in February 2013. This was nearly 2 years ago. At that time, he was still living in his own apartment, not at home

H listed 7 items that he wanted in his life. They mostly had to do with defining who he is separately in our M. He had never shared this with me.

He sent me this list today and EVERY ONE of the list is being fulfilled right now in his life. He is not a man to get overly excited but this was exciting for him!

I also feel fully free to be me in every aspect. I feel freedom to pursue my career, or stay at home if I wish. I am supported in all my endeavors and am fully trusted and loved.

Last weekend H and I visited a male friend of ours from his "drinking group". The three of us went to an entertainment district in the metro area in the evening. We rented "beach bikes" and rode around the streets and sidewalks looking at horses pulling Christmas-decorated carriages and we were laughing and letting the wind blow in our hair.

We rode the bikes to an ice skating rink and H and friend skated (first times) and I took pics. Then we met more friends at a restaurant for food and good times!

Everything is so great...its like a honeymoon but better b/c we know each other so well and the trust and love are very developed.

So...I see it isn't just the M that we saved...we preserved our individuality through this process.