My anniversary went by recently and neither of us even acknowledged it to the other. Its difficult to know whether that was the right thing to do but in the end i thought about what i wanted to say and posted that here because it was touching but definitely in the pursuing/beg/plead camp. I doubt anyone would have advised me to say those things though i still wish i had.
If i wasnt going to say that then i couldnt really say a more simple happy anniversay because she had already been pretty clear what she thought of the M.
i then felt like i wanted to vent my anger a bit but again that wouldnt have done any good
so in the end i felt my options were Postive = pursuing = bad choice neutral = false = bad choice negative = negative = bad choice nothing = nothing except in WAS head = nothing
so for me 'nothing' was better than a bad choice.
still felt rubbish though
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
