You might want to check out Dear Peggy website for I think it goes really well hand-in-hand with DBing approaches.
The Dear Peggy website is chockful of information on affairs and how to get past them.
Keep coming here, sweetie. This is an incredibly supportive community who will aid you along the healing path.
Another idea you might want to pursue is looking into SBT (solution based therapy) with a MC who has a background in Gottman principles. Gottman has studies thousands of couples and has written some really good books.
The one book that you might want to start reading is:
After the Affair by Janis A. Spring
She's also written other books on forgiveness and surviving an affair.
Godspeed on your journey of forgiveness and growth.
