Going Down Hill 2

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I picked a couple of these from a post from Silent Man today
- Be there for her no matter what
- The more she dislikes you, the easier her decision to leave is
- Do not fuel her fire

He in lies the problem. W is the one who wants to end this. But she wants the house and wants to have the kids most of the time telling me to leave. Don't get me wrong I want the house as well and I want to have the kids 50/50.
Any time we try to discuss this it seems like she freaks out and says that I am not being fair and being stubborn. I don't know but I feel that I am trying to be fair. Ever since I brought up that I am not leaving the house things have detoriated badly. She now says she hates me and there is not chance we are getting back together. We used to talk a bit, now nothing except a couple emails about when it is my turn to have kids and what to get them for Christmas.

So her in lies the problem. We aren't supposed to upset them anymore but at the same time we aren't supposed to give them everything they want. B/c you may regret it in the future and it makes you look weak. So how do we manage this balance? Not fueling her fire, but still not looking weak and looking out for your best interest's if we don't get back together?


On another note:

I really liked this quote from Silent Man. I might steal it and use it as my new motto

- A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits.

My IC noted something of me that after only 1 session. She said you are a committed guy. I all aspects of life. Which is true. If I start something. I am going to finish it no matter how hard it is so much so that I get tunnel vision and the end goal is all that is see. (One of the reason's I got in this mess) Wish I would have had my relationship as my goal the whole time. Instead of work/early retirement.