Hi! Sandi had said some important things. It's important to remember that Divorce Busting is mostly aimed at people who are desperately trying to re-attract their Walk-away spouse, who is often in an affair. You are encouraged to detach, ask very little, "Get-a-life", make your desires smaller, etc.
You are, technically, in DB-lingo, in the "piecing" stage, which is a very different strategy. This is where your BOTH work on the marriage. But, in some cases, it's where the former cheater works harder than betrayed spouse. There's lots of good material out there about reconciliation. Mostly it tells you that the spouse who cheated has got to come clean, show remorse, be transparent/honest and willing to show themselves to be trustworthy.
