Yep, that could cause some spinning for her, especially w/her thinking about it now w/the holidays upon us. I think you are doing the right thing by setting a time limit on the response. If you don't, it could drag out for quite a bit.
Your filing will take place soon. It will be interesting to see how your wife handle all of this along w/the holidays.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
