I did fail to mention that one of the things that had stbxw spinning was that I paid my L retainer and the petition is in progress after doing all the legwork. That it was real now...

My L front loaded all the discovery into the petition, so the judge has all the info needed and demonstrated that she is actually coming out a wee bit better financially than I am. I will most likely waive child support, but I might just take a fraction of it to avoid having the stress of her voluntarily giving some financial support and having to contact and nag. Not sure on that one yet.

She (my L) also wrote in a default clause that if stbxw did not respond within the 20 day state mandated "cooling off period", that it would go through as stipulated.

We shall see, my L has a trial that is taking a lot longer than she expected, but we should be filed here soon.

In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus

Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm