I am also a HD wife struggling with almost 2 years of a SSM. I have been working on "focusing on myself" to take care of myself since he seems unable or unwilling to address the lack of intimacy.
My sister died suddenly three weeks ago - thrown from her horse. I was very close to her. To say that this has been tough for me is an understatement.... Lack of support from my hubby has been VERY hurtful.
I ask myself the following:
1) Should I continue to try to accept a SSM for my own peace of mind? 2) Should I not accept and if not - what to do to try to get him to realize how serious this is? 3) Leave?
The last is not an option I am entertaining at all - but I must accept that it is an option.
Thanks for listening.
Thought for the day: "If you place a small value on yourself the world will not raise the price."
