Matt, she was trying to stay off them and fix herself, herself. But she told me she realizes she may not be able to do it naturally, via herbs, etc, right now.

I love having full custody (she gets unlimited visitation time, I just need to be informed ahead of time). Sad thing is that 2 of the boys have issues being with her (though I have made it clear I expect them to spend time with her), and she doesn't initiate much visitation time outside of picking them up from school on her days off during the week.

But I know my responsibility is solely to not damage their R's...but I do try to encourage every now and then, like over Thanksgiving break I texted her, and them, to maybe see if they could do some stuff... nada.

Drama-free R? It feels weird sometimes, lol...yet refreshing. Kind of gives you some perspective, which is why I'm digging into myself some more, as "less than fun" as that is, it needs doing, ya know?

In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus

Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm