DB,
I swear the more you write, the more questions I want to ask ya. You'll have to stop writing to get me to stop stalking you, lol!

You wrote that you are going to start being honest with her about what turns you on. Are you saying that you never told her that her words turned you on? And if so, why not? Is it just because of the extremely negative dynamic going on between you two? (which I can certainly understand..)
I was wondering if she was resistant to trying this and why she would feel that way..

Hope you have a good day and btw, good going on the new job.

Honey