It's also possible that his point is just that he resents working while you are "lollygagging" around on the farm. Maybe he wants to just sell it and be done with it too. And he probably wants you to return to work so that he won't have to pay as much in alimony. (My ex was really on me to return to work, I didn't understand it at that time as we didn't need the money and our kids really needed me at home, but I see now that he was planning for the divorce years before I knew. The irony is that now he's married to a woman who will never make as much as I do, haha.)
