Heather - you tend to get impulsive and impatient, and it doesn't always serve you. I know you're frustrated with this whole process, but I would suggest the following:
- attend the court date. - discuss with your attorney in advance what the EXACT purpose of this court date is. - find out whether you actually need to answer all 100 questions before that date (seems unlikely, especially if you can show that most of them are BS, but find out.) - wait until after the outcome of the court date before you make any decisions about your lawyer and the divorce. Don't forget that if you can get divorced next year, it may benefit you greatly in your tax refund on your tax return. - document, if you can, all the money that Smokey has paid you or paid in house payments over these last couple of years. - if the house is under water, is there a way to either transfer it to Smokey or force him to simply let it go into foreclosure so that you are not responsible for any of the money he is putting into fixing it? Or will it sell for a profit once it's fixed? If he's interested in keeping it, it may be a bargaining chip - give him the house, take your fair share of his retirement OR take alimony in lieu of the retirement. Have you and your attorney worked out what the two of you think is a fair settlement?
