So we got Christmas plans hashed out, by email. It was what he originally proposed, I just wasn't ready to sign off on it until I saw how Thanksgiving went. We will all go to church at the service H plays on Christmas Eve, we will go to dinner afterwards. Christmas morning, he'll come over early and open presents, have Christmas dinner later. It's a Thursday, so D12 will spend the night at his place. There shouldn't be any drama around any of that.
And to those of you who say it's cake eating.....maybe it is. But I just went through this whole discussion about getting the Christmas tree. If spending Christmas Day together makes my kids happy, then so be it, I'll do it.