I have to respectfully disagree with your statement that the Asperger's possibility probably doesn't impact what you need to do go going forward.
In fact, understanding this KEY ASPECT of who you are--if it applies to you-- and how it is impacting your relationships is a huge part of working on yourself and fixing what is fixable!
Believe me, it HAS impacted your relationships, even if you're not aware of it.
Although the syndrome itself is not "fixable", it is possible to manage many of the challenges it presents, thereby feeling better and having better communication and relationships with others.
Putting new skills into our repertoire and practicing them until they become second nature CHANGES OUR BRAIN CHEMISTRY.
I've said many times that no one who meets meet these days would EVER guess I have Asperger's. When I tell them, they don't believe it. Even my best friend has voiced her doubts. "Because your social skills are so good, you're so kind and empathetic."
That is the result of WORKING ON MYSELF and learning the things that seem to come to others naturally. As a result, my desire to improve and my hard work has paid off in the sense that my social skills often surpass the so-called "normal" people in the room.
Because I work at it. I am now popular, have many friends, and am so appreciated by others. Now it comes more or less naturally.
But there is a big dose of STFU involved, always. I always WANT to say this or that, and I have to monitor myself socially. But you'd never know.
The only indicator is a need to go off by myself for awhile after intense social interaction. I do find it tiring.
But it's not being in-authentic or wearing a mask, playing a role. That's really me working the room, it's the me I WANT to be, that I can be, so I make sure that's how I'm presenting myself.
It doesn't change your DBing, but---no. I think this could be monumental for you and would advise you to follow up with it. If nothing else, it will get your focus on YOU and off W and OM!
