25yearsmlc - I tried that exercise last night, and you know what? Much of what I imagined in my new happy life is going on in my present life. I have a new job. I've made new friends. I've improved relationships with current friends. I've become closer to my only brother. I'm pursuing music again (what I loved before I met my wife). In fact, I have my 1st rehearsal next week with a band that I just joined. I haven't played in a band in 20+ years.
Some of the things in my imaginary happy life that's not going on right now would include:
- Spending more time with friends.
- Traveling more, even if it's just weekend trips.
My parental responsibilities (especially with kids my age) make the above two things difficult.
The only thing that is missing, and where I feel incomplete, is the presence and love of another woman. It was difficult (near impossible) to imagine a happy life without someone by my side. It's as if that void is so large, that the true enjoyment and fulfillment of everything else in my life depends on that one void being filled. I hope that makes sense.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
