It goes to show you that we all work differently. While your wife was playing on visual cues, you are not a visual guy like most. You are more connected to the same things that women want, that is you are connected to the VERBAL world, not the visual world. I'm guessing that your the kind of guy that actually uses BOTH side of his brain, the creative as well as logical side of the brain. Most of us guys are stuck in one side of the brain, where sex, vison, logic are all at, and we really struggle to get to the creative, verbal side of the brain. Is it that your wife was not romantic enough for you? Have you ever tried to explain this to the wife?