Welcome here mahhty - as you already know, it's a good place for support and advice. Your case is almost textbook and sounds a lot like mine. The problem is that even if it's textbook, we don't know if it means they'll come back. You'd think they'd wake up some day.

This, especially, I've heard:

Originally Posted By: mahhhty
1 - I love you, but I’m not in love with you
2 - I’m not happy
3 - People don’t change
4 - Relationships aren’t work
3 and 4 hurt me the most. They're false and said to build a fence around their decision.

Do you know if she has someone else lined up? You make no mention of an OM (other man). I ask because my W lied to me until I figured it out myself, but the OM was there all along.

Another thing that isn't clear: what's your goal? Do you still want to save your M? If so, how much are you willing to put into it? Or are you here for self-preservation and development?

M39 D6 D3 (at S)
S 2014-09
D 2016-09

"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.