I'm sorry, Cadet. Still very unclear about the rules of this. I tried to find success stories, but am having difficulty with the SEARCH feature. This is all probably obvious stuff after being here a while - and I'll keep acquainting myself with the threads - but if anyone can help me find those resources, I'd appreciate it.
I am a success story and of course a work in progress, (like most working marriages). I had a DB coach I believe was a Godsend for me. I did what she advised as closely as possible, and she never steered me wrong. Follow their advice if you understand it and if not, ASK them to clarify their advice AND to explain the reasons behind it.
That helped me navigate new issues a lot.
I hope you'll stay on one thread so we can follow you and help you. And do keep at this! Work this program b/c it DOES work.
LaBug, FaithfulHusband, DueInMay are 3 success stories off the top of my head. There are more AND btw, don't just define success as those who stayed married.
Div Busting is more like a program where you learn to love/save yourself first, and in that process, stop the co-dependent, negative patterns that hurt your marriage.
Your marriage may still end, but you will be a better, happier person regardless.
I believe that the odds are against most marriages in crisis today. But truly, your best chance at overcoming that, is here.
Keep on keeping on...you have read the books, correct? And you have a DB coach? Good! (I don't know your situation but reading the Five Love Languages is a good general book to read, IF you have already read the Db books).
So Do what they say, work the program and take solace in knowing 2 things.
1) you are NOT alone, and 2) you are doing what you can to save yourself and your marriage.
So stay the course and Be at peace.
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