I think the goal is to respond selectively, but to not immediately respond.

Creating a tension and anxiety about whether they are being paid attention too. Whether you are moving on.. that is a goal.

Me: 35
Her: 33
D : 16
S : 9
Together: 14 years
Married: 12
She left 4/14/2014
Separated: 5/25/2014
OM Confirmed 7/2014
She filed 8/7/2014
I Filed 10/21/2014
Divorce final 2/12/2015