SuperDave: Is the rest of your marriage good though. I think my husband creates discord so there will be no intimacy. As he says, "He doesn't like deep [censored]." so we don't get to talk about emotions. He's also very controlling of me. I'm really getting H is not gay, he just doesn't like sex often and doesn't like affection at all. I feel as a woman, I have no power in our relationship. He's not that nice to me. I make more money, have more education, have more friends, am passionate, loving, nice, easy going (I have lots of faults too, but I am an resistant to hearing about them)---but he knows how to entrap me.
I think if you have a good relationship otherwise, being patient about sex makes more sense. I am talking to a coach tomorrow. My first appt. was good, but all they can do is talk to you about what you can do to make things better. I think I walk on eggshells already, so he won't pull away anymore. At the same time, he doesn't want to split up. I really don't get it. I think he likes the idea of being married to me...he just doesn't want to act married.
