CeMar,

You know full well that there are plenty of HD women out here, frustrated to all he!! because of the LD or ND husbands that we have.

Disconnected, I have a similar situation with my H, maby twice a year for the past ten years and nothing for the past 15 months. He is not gay, he has no interest whatsoever, and I am not going to live with that the rest of my life. Other men deisire me, and while I know that there is a real possibility of being alone the rest of my life, it is preferable than living a lie. I have not had a marriage, at least what I would call a marriage for many years, and we are getting a D. He would not admit to and refused to work on our problems with me. I cannot make him love me for the woman that I am. He also cannot love himself.

Get into some counseling if nothing else, just for yourself to give you strength and boost your self esteem. Sometimes it just ain't worth trying to fix if you are as dead inside as I have been.

Johanna