It is encouraging that you've taken a long and hard look at your issues. Addressing them is just the beginning of your own journey.
You asked what you can do to aid along the process. All of the posters have given you some good pointers. I'd would like to add by informing your lawyer to remove the restraining order against your W and inform her L of this. That will be a good first step toward healing. Having mutual restraining orders in place isn't helpful at all.
