still holding on - 5

[u-turn]

I'm at a bit of a loss right now as to what to do - and if I could get some input maybe I can figure this out.

she is frustrated with me and my distrust.
She asked me (text) if I went through a bag of hers that she had purchased some lingerie. I was teaching and couldn't respond.

Here's how it went:
w:did you go through my VS bag
me:I did see it
w:that was meant for us until our blowout
w:oh well
w:not that you would believe me anyway
w:let's move forward and figure out what we need to do
w:you slept ok last night but we cannot keep doing this
me:I know W
w: you know what?
w: have a good day
w: I don't like where we are at...but I cannot change it
me (1 hour later): I am really sorry you feel that way. I don't like it either.
me: I know this is upsetting
me (big mistake?): I would like to actively work together on this.

That's it. I don't know what to say if anything needs to be said. I do have major trust issues with her - I want to work toward a solid R again. I am tired of being this way.