I set up some rules for him. No communication after 9 and hes not allowed to take his phone to bed with him. I do random phone checks too. I look at phone call records and read a tm or 2, just so he knows I can and will keep an eye on things.
Am I being overbearing and controlling, or am I just protecting my son and showing him how to communicate responsibly?
All good. Kids need parameters to protect them from themselves and from other kids.