Firstly, I want to thank you for listening to me on Sunday. I've always said that I find it difficult to forgive you for your infidelities, but I can't imagine what [OMW] goes through seeing how determined [OM] was when he wanted to leave her. As I sat there on Sunday crying over my breakup, I know it was probably killing you to see me breaking down over another man. Thank you for being a good friend, standing by and listening to me. It means a lot actually.
Now that I've gathered my thoughts and emotions. I am ready to move on to the next step with our marriage.
I have always made it very clear my intentions. I know over and over, you keep saying, you will believe me once [OM] is out of the picture. I hope you now see my decision with us is not a result of meeting [OM]. Our marriage should have been dissolved long time ago, perhaps, never should have started. I want both of us to have the opportunity to have a new beginning, and find happiness again. If your happiness is to stay alone, continuously refining yourself, and focusing on the kids, that's great. For me, it is about focusing on the kids, my career, and rediscovering myself. There are a lot of things I want to try, but always felt I was prohibited to. I haven't thought everything through, I am taking it one day at a time, and one task at a time.
Despite all the disappointments, failure, anger I have towards our marriage, I have always loved our friendship. That was the basis to our beginning, and I hope for that reason, it is the basis how we will conclude our marriage. All the times where you were "absent" in our marriage, I am asking your help, pleading with you actually, to please work with me to make this as amicable as possible.
I have reviewed the divorce guidelines over the weekend when you were away. There are a lot of forms to fill out, timeline guidelines, etc. I think it would be good for us to sit down and go through it together. Since I am filing, you will be served by a State Marshall. Let's figure out how we can avoid this at your workplace.
If we can spend quality time to calmly talk over the procedures before starting the filing, that would be ideal. There is a lot we need to go through and agree on the outcome.
Lastly, despite of everything that's happened, I will always be grateful to you as the father to our two wonderful kids. They are very lucky to have a father like you. Thank you!
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
