Last night I informed my H that if he wanted a D, then we should not renew our lease together in 2wks. Now, today, Im a sobbing mess. I want him here, but it hurts too much to have him here. He said if he leaves, he is never coming back. Did I screw up the method somehow?
Back story...I chalk this up to a MLC. Our marriage suffered recently from E-separation, lack of intimacy. He told me 4m ago he wanted to divorce - (while I was 8m pregnant). I had an EA long ago, and he has started an EA which he claims he can do because he started pursuing her 4d after he told me he wanted out(he originally met her 2y ago). The past 4m have been full of passive aggressive cruelty from him and I don't want our boys learning that it is OK to treat women like a doormat. I have tried GAL - it is so hard with a new baby, new job, and holidays.
He stated he wanted the D before the baby was born; now he wants us to go in mutually and waive the separation period. I just need him away for my own healing, it hurts to have him sleep next to me and flinch if I even brush up against him during sleep.
What is the next step? Waiting? I'm already praying day and night.
